Being SOns Stories - Jarrett and Jamie
A letter from Jamie Amerman
Dear ABOB men,
I honestly do not even know where to start or how it is that I can thank you from the bottom of my heart for what you are doing for God's kingdom. The Lord has obviously given you all a vision, a desire and a passion for loving Him deeply and making sure you share that love for Him with other men who so desperately need Jesus.
I believe it was 5 years ago that my husband was invited to ABOB and I had absolutely no problem with him going. I dreamed my whole childhood for a Godly man and this weekend would take my man one step closer to knowing how great our God is. And while I dreamed of this Godly man that I would hope to have one day, I lived a very broken and lost life. The man that I needed to lead our family well was not the man that I had married. Although I thought I had it all together, and hid well all the sins I was committing, I knew I was not the woman God intended me to be.
ABOB was an awakening. Not just for my husband, but also for myself and our family. You see, it was at ABOB that my husband finally understood the hurt that I had endured from my childhood. For the first time ever he wanted to talk to me about what happened in my past. He wanted to understand why I was insecure, why I needed validation in all the wrong places and why having him wasn't enough. I finally had a man with ears willing to hear and a throat willing to swallow a whole lot of pride.
While my husband was absent putting money, career, traveling and "things" in front of myself and our family, I was busy holding resentment, anger, insecurities, and questions as to if I had even married the right man. And I made a lot of wrong choices. But I hid them. And for some amazing and beautiful reason the Holy Spirit revealed to my husband the weekend at ABOB that I was not being faithful. I was having an emotional affair on the man I loved the most.
As much as that sounds awful, I cannot even begin to tell you how much of a blessing it was that he knew. I didn't have to hide behind closed doors and keep pretending everything was ok. I finally had a man that had ears to hear my hurt, my shame and my brokenness. And by the grace of God my man understood and had the willingness to forgive the hurt I had inflicted on him.
A lot of communication, prayer and forgiveness has had to take place from both of us. And I can say today that the good Lord has completely restored our marriage. And He has renewed our lives to walk in obedience with the Holy Spirit. He has shown us both how great our God is, how deep our God loves us and how beautiful the gift of marriage and having each other as life partners can be.
The clarity ABOB provided has taken us to a new level of love, a new level of understanding and a new level of obedience to our God. The last 5 years have been the best 5 years of my life. We are finally in sync with one another. We both dedicated our lives to loving God first and then loving each other. It is truly amazing to see how God has blessed us since we have decided to walk in obedience with Him. Our individual walks with the Lord are something I thought was unfathomable. Our marriage is in tact in ways that I didn't even know were possible. God has allowed us to have deeper and more meaningful relationships with each of our children and the Lord has blessed our lives with a beautiful and healthy new baby girl from the foster system who is now our forever daughter.
Five years ago we were a broken family of 5 who thought we had it all together and pretended to each other and to the community that we were perfect. Today we are a strong and loving family of 6. Though we still may not have it all together, we have Jesus! And HE is our rock. He is who we live for. He is why we live with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness and self control. And He is the reason ABOB is so good. Thank you for your service to God's Kingdom. I pray blessings over each and every one of you and your families and am so grateful for Godly men who stand up in this battle of life to lead other men to become warriors.
You all amaze me!!!!
Sincere blessings and appreciation,
...and from Jarrett Amerman
For the first 32 years of my life, I struggled with so many things (anger, anxiety, fear, pride, etc.) and this weekend really helped me understand that it was because of things I was taught and conditioned to and nothing that God intended for me...The restoration that has taken place in my heart and home is indescribable and I desire this for every man I know. Deuteronomy 30 vs. 3 sums up my experience with ABOB perfectly God, your God, will restore everything you lost; he'll have compassion on you; he'll come back and pick up the pieces from all the places where you were scattered. Your life will never be the same.
- Jarrett Amerman (Alumni of multiple BASIC Boot Camps