60. “THE BIG SIX” NEEDS OF EVERY CHILD- W/Adam Young

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SUMMARY
In this episode of the Being Sons podcast, we delve into "The Big Six" essential needs every child requires from their caregivers, as explained by our guest, trauma therapist, podcast host and author Adam Young. Together we discover how attunement, responsiveness, engagement, affect regulation, emotional strength, and repair can profoundly impact a child's development and secure attachment. Join us as we explore these foundational elements and learn how they shape the journey of fatherhood and personal growth. You WILL get insights that promise to transform your understanding of your child, your childhood, parenting and relationships.

To learn more from Adam Young listen to his great podcast, “The Place We Find Ourselves” and read his excellent new book, “Make Sense of Your Story”

 

TAKEAWAYS

-Understanding your own story is crucial for effective parenting.
-Children need attuned and responsive caregivers to develop securely.
-The 'Big Six' needs are essential for healthy emotional development.
-Attunement involves recognizing and understanding a child's emotional state.
-Responsiveness is about how caregivers react to a child's emotions.
-Engagement means pursuing a child's unique identity and feelings.
-Parents must regulate their children's affect during emotional dysregulation.
-It's important for parents to handle their own emotions to support their children.
-Repairing harm done in parenting is essential for healthy relationships.
-The parent-child relationship is designed for the parent to give and the child to receive.

 CHAPTERS

00:00 Understanding Dysregulation and Its Impact
01:03 Introduction to Adam Young and His Work
05:15 The Importance of Personal Story in Healing
06:34 The Influence of Family of Origin on Fathering
09:48 Secure vs. Insecure Attachment Explained
11:42 The Big Six Needs of Children
16:52 Attunement: Reading Children's Emotional States
18:51 Responsiveness: The Role of Caregivers
19:48 Engagement: Pursuing the Child's Unique Identity
26:32 Regulating Children's Affect: A Parent's Role
34:50 Handling Big Emotions: The Parent's Strength
39:42 The Importance of Repair in Relationships

About Our Guest - Adam Young
Adam Young is a therapist who focuses on trauma and abuse, and the host of "The Place We Find Ourselves" podcast. Adam is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with a Masters degree in Social Work (Virginia Commonwealth University) and Divinity (Emory University). Adam is certified in EMDR, and serves as a Fellow with The Allender Center. He lives in Fort Collins, CO, where he enjoys mountain biking, skiing, and soccer.

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